Source: Google photo of women speaking out
Synopsis : There
is a culture of impunity that exists everywhere for those who abuse others and
get away with it. The blog looks at the root cause and the ways an abused
person may learn to defend himself or herself.
I have written about the depredation of women who are
subjected to sexual abuse in the entertainment industry where the casting
couches become a standard for such abuses. It is now known that such abuses
occur worldwide and are not limited to Holly Wood or Bolly Wood.
Read my blog called the sexual depredation of women here.
Women now have started to speak out through the Me too
movement that has shown a light on the dark side of the industries where such
abuses take place and some if not all abusers have been exposed and some have
been sent to jails. Still a culture of impunity exists where women are too
afraid to come out and openly expose the wrongdoers because rich people hire
expensive lawyers to threaten the victims with the consequences or offer them
hush money to keep quiet.
They also have a sinister tool in their tool kit to prevent
the victims from speaking out. It is called No disclosure agreement or in short
NDA that women and men must sign before they are employed that effectively
seals their lips until they resign or leave the industry.
It is like a would be rapist entices a young woman with a
promise of a great career in the movie or fashion industry and makes her sign
the NDA so the young and beautiful young woman who is eager to get a break
signs the NDA not knowing that she may be subjected to physical, moral, psychological
and mental abuse later and may be prevented to speak out because she has signed
the NDA. It then creates the culture of impunity for the abuser who takes
advantage of his position to lure young people and sexually abuse them.
Once I was in Paris where a young model in skimpy clothes
was posing for the photographer near the Eifel tower so I stopped to see the
guy who could not take enough photos of the model so the poor girl kept on
posing and changing angle every few seconds to satisfy the photographer. She
was probably posing for a Vanity magazine or lingerie company although many
companies use near nude models to sell their products because sex sells.
They hold fashion shows to show off their new creations of
bras and panties or clothes where the models parade on the catwalk in very
skimpy clothes while the photographers on both sides snap photos furiously.
These models are chosen for their skinny bodies and boldness to appear in
public showing a good part of their private parts. Some openly wear transparent
clothes to drive home the point that they are not ashamed because the industry
that pays them well demands such display to showcase what they are selling.
These women are told to strictly maintain their body weight so they practically
starve to do so.
They are told to have sex to stay fit so they become
promiscuous in order to gain favors if they were not promiscuous before. They
are frequently invited to parties by their producers where drugs, booze and sex
are the theme so they turn the party into an orgy where anything goes. Young
women knowingly attend such parties because they know what is expected of them.
If a woman has been sexually active then what does it matter to her if a few
more men jump in?
Now an Australian woman and a former model for a famous lingerie company talks freely about the depredations she suffered that shed light on the dark side of the company so watch the video here.
https://youtu.be/yeuDcNfogME
To the first timers it comes as a shock but she is told
that she must be a team player in order to get a role or a job as a fashion
model so she loses her shyness and inhibitions especially if she is given a lot
to drink that may have cocaine in it. There is always a mama san who keeps an
eye on the new recruits to make sure that the party is lively. She herself is a
product of such culture of drugs, sex and abuse. Her role as a mama san is the
same as in a whorehouse.
Once I asked a friend why there were so many Moslem women in the Bollywood film industry in its early days, he answered that in the early days of the industry there were only Moslem whores who could sing and dance so they were given roles in the movies. It did not hurt if they were pretty. The Hindu women did not sing or dance in public because their strict culture prevented it. It changed with time so now you see many women who have become stars in Bollywood and have become famous.
But their fame and wealth came at a price they were forced
to pay just like in Holly Wood . Some have come out and have exposed this dark
side of the industry where the sex and drugs culture is exposed that continues
to abuse the new comers.
So the root cause of this exploitation of women and men is
the objectification of the new aspirants who are told in no uncertain terms
what is expected of them to succeed so they comply. If they come from poverty
then they accept the price they must pay in order to become a star. Once they
become successful meaning well known and wealthy, they try to forget how they
were exploited by the people who made them the star. I suppose it was a lot
more easier for the Moslem whores who joined the movie industry in its early
days. Later they were pushed out by the new comers who were more aggressive and
were willing to go any length to succeed.
So I come to the question – Why some people abuse women
with such impunity in the movie, cosmetic, lingerie and many other industries
where they try to sell their products using pretty women in skimpy clothes? You
will see them in the auto industries and wonder what has a near naked woman to
do with the sale of a new car model?
I think the bestial part of this sort of behavior is rooted
in the Western culture that other culture of the East try to imitate now
because they too have started to believe
that sex sells. If someone puts a picture of a naked woman in a U tube video,
it gets more clicks even if the woman has nothing to do with the subject of the
video. I suppose it is the male human nature that is attracted to female nudity
in some form.
There was a time in the Western culture when women wore clothes hiding their entire body but they started to shed them gradually until some of them were left with g strings on a public beach while others went a step further. Thus shedding their clothes in public came linked with shedding their inhibitions as well that led to the culture of promiscuity in some women. Such women became the trail blazers for the younger generation that picked it up with avidity.
Notice that I always say some women because not all women subscribe to this aspect in their culture even today because they like to stick to their conservative views on how women should dress. Just ask any Amish woman why they dress the way they do and they will answer that it is dignified, decent and moral. They are not the only ones who say and practice what they believe. You will not see Moslem women anywhere going bare breasted and wearing g-strings publicly. The whores do not have such inhibition but this blog is not about them.
The lingerie industry in particular is responsible for
introducing the trend of skimpy clothes and diaphanous clothes that they
display in prominent stores and Malls everywhere where models with stunning
body and boobs wearing the lingerie are shown in huge colored posters. The old
fashioned lingerie is not kept on shelves anymore because the buyers are told
that the skimpy is the trend. The young women are nothing if not trendy.
When a culture introduces free mixing of sexes, the boys
and girls playing together, going to school together from their childhood and
later on to college, they shed all inhibitions. Those who are shy to go on
dating and mixing with them are called prudes and are made fun of. If they
remain virgin and are religious to boot, that too invites ridicule from those
who are not like them so the pressure to conform what others are doing is
doubled on them. This pressure is relentless if they manage to finish high
school and go to college somewhere so some of them capitulate. Because no one
wants to be lonely and without a date once in a while.
Personally I have nothing against free mixing of sexes from
childhood because I have seen the negative impact on the psychology of young
people where they can’t mix freely with each other. But how a boy or girl
decides to live by the moral code of their society and that of their parents is
best left to them and not to others in their school or college who may pressure
them to conform.
Later when some men attain a level of importance in the
entertainment industry meaning movies or TV or in the fashion industry, they
take this free mixing with women to the next level where they start to abuse
their authority over them so the casting couches come into play. Many pretty
women have given in to their demands because not getting a role in the movies
could make them earn a living on the streets.
So the NDA and the weakness of women in such circumstances
have created the level of impunity for their abusers everywhere. Now some brave
women have come out and spoken publicly about the abuse they suffered in the
hands of some men and women ( remember the mamasans ?) that helps take away
some of the impunity the abusers enjoy. Some have been sent to jails and others
have settled with massive amount of money to the victims. In this age of
instant messaging, social media and skype, one can spread the Me too movement a
lot faster than the traditional media where abusive men still control them.
So I blame the culture that promotes knowingly or
unknowingly the free mixing that ends up in sexual abuse of young women
starting in High School and later takes it to the next level in college. Later
the same people may become the abusers or the victims on a larger scale with
drugs and alcohol thrown in for good measure although the drugs and alcohol may
start even in high school in many cases.
In the college in California, I was often asked by my dorm
mates to buy for them alcohol because they were underage. Marijuana was more
easily available to them.
So it does not take a genius to figure out what happens
when a bunch of horny boys and girls at a certain age get to go on dates. It is
no wonder that in some traditional societies, the parents still insist on
chaperons when their daughters go on dates. They keep an eye on the fellow when
he is seriously courting a girl to keep them out of trouble until marriage.
This culture of impunity exists everywhere. It is easy to
blame the woman if she is poor and has no fancy lawyers to defend her so the
wealth of her abuser creates the impunity he enjoys. A man may be punished for
tax fraud , drug trafficking or human trafficking or even a simple busted light
in his car but seldom a man is punished just because a woman says she was
abused by him. A judge may even blame the victim for her rape if she shows
up in his courtroom in skimpy clothes.
I was amused by the tradition among the Amish people in
Pennsylvania where the courting couple is allowed to sleep on the same bed but
a long piece of wood must divide them. This piece of wood disappears once they
are formally married so I admire the restraints the young Amish people practice
when they are tempted.
I should end this blog here by saying that anyone who
claims to be sexually abused by someone has the choice of defending herself
with whatever means she has and walk away instead of submitting to the demands.
To learn how to say a firm NO is a good thing that can keep you out of trouble.
Do you have the courage to say NO ?
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